Identifying a female narcissist is not as easy as it seems. Some of us may be living with one and not even realise it. To refresh your mind, a narcissist is an extremely selfish person who are in love with themselves, worship themselves and care only about themselves. Don’t get me wrong here though, loving oneself is a wonderful attribute everyone should have. However, for narcissists, extremism and obsession is the case. They may be in a relationship with you, but they are only in it for themselves. When they do something for you, there is always a hidden agenda.
In this article, you will learn some of the common attributes exhibited by them which will help you stay off their track.
1) SHE IS MOSTLY OBSESSED WITH HER PHYSICAL APPEARANCE
This attribute screams very loud, that’s why it is the first on the list. Most dictionary define a narcissist as someone who is incredibly obsessed with their looks as well as their physical appearance. If you don’t compliment their looks, that will automatically be an issue. Their number one concern all the time is how they look, and they pay less attention to anything else.
Once satisfied their looks are perfect, that’s when they finally remember you exist in their life.
2) SHE IS EXTREMELY MATERIALISTIC IN NATURE
This is an offshoot of the first one above. Being obsessed with their physical appearance ensures that they love to be trendy with the latest clothing, bags, shoes, etc.
It doesn’t end there too, they also ensure that there trendy wearables are noticed.
If by chance they cannot buy this things on their own, they cling onto someone who can, a rich guy or man. Their main purpose is to make sure that in the end, they feel superior to their female counterparts due to their assumed worth from wearing the latest in town.
3) SHE LOVES ATTENTION
When it comes to being the centre of attention, the number one on the list is a narcissist. Call her a drama queen and you are on the right track into understanding just how big she adores being the centre of attention. She yearns for it like air, it’s what keeps her going. They will do anything within their power to be in the spotlight, and will fight whoever is on their way for it. This is a good trait, but for a narcissist, it is extreme as most of the things she is fighting attention for are mostly worthless. For a female narcissist, every other female is a competition and they will not mind making you feel inferior about yourself. They get high from such acts, infact, they live for it.
4) SHE USES EVERY NEGATIVE MEANS TO SMEAR
A narcissist derives great joy from tormenting others emotionally, physically or by psychological means. She easily resorts to abusive languages and cruel actions to make sure they torture you, and to see you shattered just to get off of it.
5) EVERYTHING IS ALWAYS ABOUT HER
Somehow, she finds a way to make everything about her. Try telling her about your day, she will find a way to make it seem unimportant because she wants to talk about herself. Nothing you do is as important as her hairstyles which she thinks the hairstylist didn’t do right, or the make ups she bought the other day has too much oil.
She will boast about all the accomplishments she has achieved, about her success, about her life and how gorgeous she thinks she is. She will make you know that she is doing you a favour for being with you, like she is totally superior to you. Nothing about you is her problem, but everything about her is your problem. She is her number one priority at all times, and she will make you understand that your needs are not as important as her own.
6) SHE IS EASILY IRRITATED AND WILL THROW UNNECESSARY TANTRUM
If you happen to be in a relationship with one, sooner or later you discover that little things are usually the things that riles her up. Minor things that shouldn’t be an issue are always the things that escalates into serious problems with a female narcissist. She will always leave you wondering about your own insanity, always imagining what you said or did that was wrong. Did i also tell you that they’re the mistresses of silent treatment for no just cause? She will through a fit if she doesn’t get what she wants all the time.
7) SHE IS A RELATIONSHIP NIGHTMARE
She will use her features to flirt with a lot of men just to make you jealous or create a leverage with you so as to let you know that you are privileged to be with her.
There are also many other attributes which is peculiar to them, but at the centre of it all is self-obsession and looking down on others because she feels she is better than them.