Overtime, humans have searched through space and time for the ever elusive love. At the end point of most existence, they never found love no matter how seriously they tired. However, that doesn’t mean we should stop trying or searching. The truth remains, there is love out there; the where, how and with who you find it with is entirely your own cup of tea.
Here are tips for those who genuinely search for love in its purest –
1). Hope for the best, but don’t expect too much
When falling in love, you don’t need to base it on some sort of checklist or formula where you tick off the qualities you like and cross-check your top choices. I am not saying you shouldn’t have expectations as a lady or a guy, but don’t let it ruin your chances of happiness. Many have stayed single, grumpy and sad because they expected too much or so little. So find a balance to what you want and be realistic enough. You are a stark illiterate, yet you want to marry someone who is a PhD holder, it’s possible but that shouldn’t be your priority.
2) Love comes at a price
Any relationship that works out comes at a price, a tradeoff and certain compromise or sacrifice. Follow your heart, but keep your eyes wide open. Don’t pay a fool’s price, it will be too high to balance off in the long run. Love is blind, but it is not a total blind fool bereaved of common sense. Follow your heart but use your brains too. When you meet someone for the first time, look out for the qualities you like in them, if their character or lifestyle is not suitable to you and you are very certain you can’t sustain the standards for long, leave. The price should be within the boundaries of what you can afford, don’t go overboard except you are entirely sure you’re comfortable with the risks.
3) Take only healthy risk
Sometimes take a leap and hope for the best. Please and please, don’t fall asleep in the steering wheels and curvatures of love, all in the name of taking risks. Love always comes with a tricky bend. Only the bold and courageous can navigate it and come out unscathed, or live happy ever after( there is no such thing). As I said previously love comes at a compromise, no one has it all. If your partner has prospect but no much money to cater for all your dreamy needs, then you can take the risk knowing the prospects can actually translate to bank digits. Believing he’ll turn out good, is a health risk. Take risks, but don’t risk it all with impossible dreams. Stick to the corridors of reality. Tailor those dreams to the stitches of reasons.
4) Love has no fixed location
Love exist but when you ask people to search for it, they tend to walk to their favorite destinations. Love is everywhere , here and there. Find yours and don’t settle for anything less. You can find love in a mosque, church, library, night club, and even in a warfront. Love hardly cares where you meet it. Just embrace these possibilities. Be open to the idea that love has no zone.
Love is in the air, it is everywhere all you have to do is breath in, no one knew where the messiah will come. He may come from the unlikeliest of places. Just ask the people of Nazareth they’ll explain better.
5). Love the things you can endure
In other words, love who you can endure.
When you are busy searching for some loving, just make sure that you can endure the things already in place. If at the future it turns out better, well that’s your luck. If it turns out worst, well shit happen. But always know what you are getting into. If you know for a fact that you can’t endure the trauma, no need for pretense, just walk away because when love withers away in marriage or long lasting relationship, your only comfort will be for the things you endured and the things that makes it worth enduring. Don’t make your decisions based on faith or belief that the person you want to love will change for the better someday. Stay with what you can endure from the beginning. Be careful. Leopards don’t change their spots.
WARNING: I am no expert in this. I hardly take my own advice ,that doesn’t mean you can’t do otherwise.