Some partners love clinging to beautiful moments shared with their lovers. But, the memories we hold on to so dearly may be the death of us.
No matter how great the lovey-dovey raged, no matter the promises and vows taken to ensure the continuity, you have to note that people rarely change.
Everything you thought was real may actually be a facade to keep up with you – a game. Some people can be very good at creating false illusions for their partners in the beginning. But, sooner or later, their real personality is going to show up.
Warning: you may not like that person, and they know this too.
Take a look at a typical Narcissist for instance. They know how to alienate you from everyone else and make you feel like you are their world. Same person will later make you feel worthless and use all the shared memories as emotional hold to pin your down to tolerate their excesses.
They will start from the little things and work their way up until they have totally disarmed you and made you their slave. You will slowly start dying from the inside, probably swelling with depression and with no one left to talk to. Funny thing is, it’s not going to get better.
The key in avoiding falling into the mess in the first place is to nip it at the bud. The moment you start noticing characters, attitudes or behavior you are not comfortable with, address it instantly. If you don’t, you are going to start tolerating it. Today, you may think okay, just this one time but by the time you realize it, you are already five (5) years deep into their shit.
Life is too short to be wasting it tolerating an unhappy relationship. The earlier you get out, the better it will be for you.