When you’re dating a person, the emotions and excitement of the “butterfly in the tummy stage” might be overwhelming, and you may be unaware of the doom and the red flags you be walking into. Some actions your partner portray can indicate a form of mental and emotional abuse, which is fairly common in today’s world.
These red flags are usually small at the beginning and therefore easily ignorable. As much as possible, you must put a check on your emotions, desires and whatever mental picture you may have created of what you think your relationship should be. It is usually the case that this things blind you to some of the red flags listed below –
- Constant Deception and Lies
Constantly noticing that your spouse is lying is not a good sign and can lead to gradual distrust. However, if you notice other person is consistently getting caught in petty lies about their whereabouts, or things that ordinarily shouldn’t be hard to disclose, they are usually hiding something.
Repeated lies can make it difficult to build a strong foundation in a relationship or demolish one that has already been established, leaving you with an uncertain future.
- Repeatedly Talking you Down
“This is a type of mental abuse that can induce feelings of unease and unsteadiness. Some common examples are as follows:
- You’re lucky I’m still with you at this time
- You’ll never be able to see anyone else better than me.
- Without me, you are nothing.
Also, each time you make an attempt to be amusing or funny, you come across as insane to your partner as they may compete with you to make you look worthless and repeatedly tell you hurtful things.
- A Reluctance To Consider Compromise Consistently
If you’re in a relationship with someone who appears to make everything inconsistent, you could over compromise and end up feeling angered, wounded, misunderstood, and unhappy. It’s natural in strong bonds to consider one another’s needs and desires, and compromise is certainly not a one-way street.
- Excessive Envy and Self-control
“A partner with excessive envy wouldn’t be happy to see that you have a social life outside the relationship. They may also try to limit what you do by bombarding you with excessive calls or messages every minute”
Control attempts, for the most part, begin subtly but intensify with time, leaving you feeling as if nothing you do is ‘enough,’ so if you feel covered or find yourself consistently changing your behavior to appease their desires, it might be an indicator of more unfortunate troubles to come.
- Avoidance Of Difficult Situations
A spouse who lacks the enthusiasm or social skills required to adapt to problems and, on second thought, runs away from them, may be detrimental to your relationship. When things become heated enough, a handful of people will pass on arguments without paying attention to you or will ignore you for an extended period of time.
When presented with intense emotions, those who find it impossible to handle them will likely run away. Even the strongest bonds can break down; so you should be sure that your partner will explore viable options with you rather than scamper when things get too intense.