Self-absorption Paradox

At what age do you think you became self aware of yourself and immediate environment?

According to researchers who studied the phenomenon amongst children, it was discovered that self-awareness starts from when the child is at least sixteen months old.

Being self aware is supposed to make life easier because at this point, a person can easily become more efficient at tackling live issues using knowledge and environment to their advantage. The problem though is this can quickly transcend into a constant source of worry, pain and regret.

Being self aware often leads to obsessive tendencies called the Self-Absorption Paradox. The more aware we are, the less mistakes we make while torturing self more over past mistakes.

According to psychology, higher self-awareness is proven to cause greater psychological distress. Hence, too much knowledge can be a burden. Having knowledge you can’t use creates a certain loss in the mind.

Self-absorption paradox hurts people’s ability to go out and socialize. Knowing how people are likely to behave (given past encounters) is likely going to be a source of discouragement. Since a person who is well aware tend to foresee mistakes before they even happen, they may avoid interacting altogether so as to avoid such scenarios in the future.

At this point, one is practically obsessed with self, and preoccupied with making less mistakes or appearing in certain manner, they start forgetting how to actually live life.

The Self-absorption paradox is such that the more you focus on moulding yourself, the more you close yourself off to the exclusion of everything else.


  1. Several parts of that describe me completely. I was nine months old when I learned to talk, walk and was potty trained. I was two and a half when WWII ended and remember it as if it was yesterday even though I don’t remember much about yesterday. Not sure if it is self awareness, but I am never comfortable in a crowd and have very few real friends.

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